Accountable Kids

It may seem to be a simple goal, but it's a priority important goal of mine.  I will raise children who are respectful and accountable for their actions.  Tyler is only 4 (almost 5...sniff) and already he will say things like "you made me do xxx."  I'm always quick on the draw to say, "no Tyler, you chose to do xxx."  We recently purchased a kids responsibility system.  My kids might only be 3 & 4 yrs old, but they have chores.  They are expected to help around the house with manageable tasks for their age, such as wiping off the table and putting away their clothes.  Avery is all girly and loves to help with household tasks.  I expect that will change quickly around her 11th birthday, or so. Tyler enjoys being rewarded after he helps.  Just this morning I gave the dog water in her bowl.  He was sooo upset that he lost the opportunity to earn a star.  Again, another lesson learned....the early bird gets the worm.  I really hope my children grow to love, appreciate and grateful towards helping others, including our little family!